Wedding Guests Dos and Don’ts

Having aggregately attended over 80 weddings in the last 10 years, you can say that jigg and I know a thing or two about being good wedding guests. Below is our list…let us know if we missed anything!

Dress Code

  • (Ladies Only) Do NOT wear white or off-white . This includes ivory, cream, ecru or anything that can be mistaken for white. White is only reserved to the bride, and if she wishes, to her bridal party. To all the moms out there: Yes, this goes for your young daughter as well – it’s NOT cool dressing her up as a flower girl unless she is actually the flower girl.
  • (Ladies Only) Bring a pair of flat shoes for backup. Your feet will thank you for it at the end of the night.
  • Dress appropriately for the occasion and honor the requested dress code, if provided. This means don’t show up in a ballgown at a beach wedding or cocktail attire at a black tie wedding.


  • Coming from personal experience, skip the gift registry and give money. Because cash is more helpful to the newlyweds than a crystal bowl or a set of porcelain teacups.
  • Write a check instead of giving cash, in case the money gets lost or stolen.
  • Remember to write your name on the card or gift. The bride and groom will not likely remember whom the gift is from, even if you personally handed it to them. If you need a card, we just so happen to have this awesome one for sale.
What gift should we get the bride and groom? CASH!

What gift should we get the bride and groom? CASH!



  • Do not bring a date if you were not given a +1, or if you did not RSVP for him/her.
  • Do not bring your kids if they were not invited. Not being able to find a babysitter is not the bride and groom’s problem.


  • If you do bring children, make sure they’re under control. Kids tend to have impeccable timing for acting out or crying right when the couple is exchanging vows, so be ready to bring them out of the room. Yes, it sucks that you won’t get to hear the couple’s undying love for each other, but if you don’t leave, all the other guests won’t get to hear it either.
  • Do not block the wedding photographers or videographers or get in their shots. The bride and groom will not be thrilled to find a creeper with an iphone or ipad in the background of their wedding photos.

Cocktail Hour

  • Head to the bar first, then the food stations during cocktail hour. This will minimize your wait time in both lines.
  • Congratulate the bride and groom.


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